If you are in the middle of a divorce, chances are you’re counting down the days until it’s all over.
For life to feel something like “normal” again.
To not be verbally stomped on because of something that you say. So you can say goodbye to being emotionally beaten into the ground over and over and blamed for everything that is going wrong with your marriage, your financial life, your sex life, everything.
So you can breathe again.
So you can finally start to heal after all the horrible things your spouse has put you through and finally put your life back together.
The divorce process is hard enough to go through under normal circumstances. You are hurting, your partner is hurting, and your children, who are caught in the middle, suffer the most.
Within reach is the freedom that you’ve been longing for all these years. It’s time to pull yourself out of this dark and horrible place and grab at your chance of happiness with both hands.
But if your soon-to-be ex is a narcissist, I’ve got some very bad news...
In the court room, your soon-to-be-ex-partner will make unreasonable demands.
They will insist that they are right… and you are wrong about everything.
They will convince everyone, even you, that you are a horrible parent and why on earth would the court give the kids to you?
They will go after any assets of value including the house, the cars, your retirement savings, inheritances that were specifically given to you and not them. A narcissist will claim that they deserve all of it because of all the horrible things that you did to them.
Your ex will turn your kids against you and fight to give you as little access to them as possible.
Your Spouse Will Try to Take Everything You Value and More
There is no logical reason that someone should behave this badly. It’s beyond all reason or comprehension.
All I can say is that Narcissism is a real psychological condition, and the people who are closest to them often experience a very familiar pattern of abuse that doesn’t magically go away the moment you agree to a divorce.
You Need to Stand Up for Yourself!
I Will Help You Do That.
Let me introduce myself.
I’m Christine Hammond. I’m a licensed mental health counsellor, the author of, The Exhausted Woman, and I host a podcast called, “Understanding Today’s Narcissist.”
I’ve made it my life’s work to understand what makes narcissists act the way they do.
But I’ll never forget the first time I heard the term “narcissist”.
My best friend came to me, so upset and confused. She could not figure out what was going on with her husband. She started describing him… his symptoms, really…
He was arrogant, demanding, would never apologize for anything. He would be so rude to others, but then could be unbelievable charming at times. He could be nice and get along with people, but then be overbearing and make up stories that just weren’t true. He exaggerated all the time.
It all sounded so familiar to me. Because I grew up with a father and a grandmother who were both just like that.. I remember the pain I felt as a child, never being able to win their love and experiencing the chaos of my parents’ divorce.
But I had no idea that there was a word for this type of thing.
I put those symptoms into the computer into a search engine and that’s when “narcissist” came up.
That’s when the light bulb came on, and I began to study narcissism. Over the years learned how to work with narcissists and their families.
How to Survive a Divorce with a Narcissist
In the next couple of months, I will host a series of four webinars called, “How to Survive a Divorce with a Narcissist,” where I explain all the tactics your spouse may use in court, and show you exactly what you need to do to overcome everything they may throw at you.
If you’ve been married to a narcissist, you don’t need me to tell how self-centered they can be. And how unwilling they are to admit that they were ever wrong about anything.
… the fact that you’re working towards getting a divorce says a lot. Narcissists get inside their partners’ head and convince you that everything is your fault… not theirs. Often, partners of narcissists believe those lies and never leave.
Now that you have made the decision to get a divorce (… or the decision has been made for you) you are in for a rough ride.
Narcissists always need to be right, look superior and be in charge. And they will do or say almost anything to prove that they are never to blame.
The things that it hard to be married to a narcissist will make your life even worse being divorced to one.
As a therapist I have helped thousands of families through divorce. Narcissists have nasty a bag of tricks, and you need to know what to say to shut them down, stop this horrible behavior and make them leave you alone.
She Could Have Fought Back, But She Wanted OUT
I’ve heard too many horror stories of people getting so screwed by their narcissist partners… to the point of living in poverty.
One woman told me about how her partner took everything and left her with all the debt.
Somehow, he convinced her, and the court, that the house was a debt rather than an asset and he made it sound like she owed him money because he took the house. Whenever she tried to get anything from the marriage, he attacked her: How dare she take advantage of him!
She had to move in with her parents after the divorce!
I am sick and tired of seeing divorces end this way.
The courts will not help you with this.
You can’t expect your lawyer to help you either.
Sure, you are paying them good money to help you with your divorce, but they aren’t equipped to help you deal with your narcissistic partner. You will have to convince your lawyer that this is how your spouse will behave.
It is their job to get you through the legal system, in, out and done.
Even if the result hurts you.
I Will Help You Get the Best Deal for You
I charge $150 for this webinar series. Here’s why.
There is no other resource that prepares you for the onslaught of surprise abusive attacks, followed by desperate pleas to remain together, that will leave you feeling confused, frustrated and anxious.
I will give you the tools that you need to plan for and fight back against the onslaught of continuing abuse. You need to be prepared.
They will show up to court and turn on the charm. They will manipulate the judge, your family members and even your own lawyer into believing that they are the victims leaving you, the real spousal victim without support.
That means that you are in very real danger of losing things that are important to you.
Your reputation and your relationships
I don’t want this to happen to you. I don’t want to you let your soon-to-be ex jerk you around with these legal and emotional tactics that will result in you giving in to their demands and not getting what you need after the divorce.
There is a Lot at Stake
Your future, your finances, and the way that you interact with your kids and your ex for the rest of your life, all depend on how the divorce plays out.
Narcissists are famous for being great in court.
But I have been studying them for long enough to know what they’re up to. In this webinar you will gain the strategies you need to overcome their destructive tactics.
Once you are aware of what is going on, you will be able to think clearly and form a plan that will help you make the best decisions for you and for your family.
I’ve seen enough spouses get the short end of the stick during a divorce. It’s just not right, and I’m done with this scenario. Sign up now and put an end to the manipulation, so you can move forward with your life.
Stop the roller coaster, I want to get off!
Have you ever heard of the Cycle of Abuse?
Lenore Walker coined the term in the seventies and it describes the pattern of tension building, acting-out, reconciliation/honeymoon, and calm that happens in most abusive relationships.
However, when a narcissist is the abuser, the cycle looks different.
Narcissism changes the back end of the cycle because the narcissist is constantly self-centered and unwilling to admit fault. Their need to be superior, right, or in charge limits the possibility of any real reconciliation.
If you are married to a narcissist, you may feel horrible about yourself because your spouse has gone out of their way to make you feel like everything that is going wrong is your fault.
If you’ve ever tried desperately to gain forgiveness while your narcissist spouse plays the victim, you know what I’m talking about. It’s called a “switchback tactic”. Your narcissist spouse convinces you that you that you are to blame for their abusive behavior.
The cycle begins when there is a threat to the narcissist’s authority or ego.
When you fight back the narcissist turns it around and acts like the victim! Not only that, they will beat you into the ground verbally and emotionally until you wind up apologizing and giving in, which empowers the narcissist and the cycle begins again, like a recurring nightmare.
The scars from this type of abuse aren’t visible, making it harder for you to get people to believe you.
But I want to help you walk away and start to heal from this abuse.
The Abuse Cycle Will Get Worse in Court, If You Let It
One move that they can use to hurt your case is abuse you, but switch it around so they look like the victim while you look like the abuser.
If you’ve ever defended yourself against your ex, fought back in any way, they will use that behavior as further evidence that they are the ones being abused. They will make it seem like you initiated the abuse.
And this is where things go very badly for the people who are trying to divorce a narcissist.
You might feel bad enough that you will accept this warped story and give in to what your spouse wants. You might be so beaten down that you accept unnecessary responsibility, just to keep the peace, and agreeing to the narcissistic lies… and to the narcissist’s terms for divorce.
This happens in the courtroom all the time, and I don’t want it to happen to you.
In This 4-Part Webinar,
You’ll Find out How to Deflect these Types of Attacks
You’ll also find out how to deal with other tactics that narcissists use. Tactics like...
Bullying scare tactics and threats.
‘I love you” / ”I hate you” Tugging at your heartstrings and slamming you down, and keeping you on an emotional roller coaster ride just to keeps you feeling uncertain.
Bait and switch. For example, dangling attractive bait such as money, and then saying something hurtful like, “You only married me for the money, you are such a whore.”
Using excessive motions, delays, and other stall tactics to drag out mediation (to hide their guilt and wear you out so you give them what they want).
Luring children to their side with “Disney parenting.” That’s what we call it when your spouse spoils the kids rotten when you’re gone and badmouths you the whole time in an effort to turn them against you.
February 6th: Bait And Switch
How a narcissist dangles attractive bait like money, success, power, or influence and then uses against their spouse. Discover ways to avoid or get out of this trap.
February 13th: Scare Tactics
Narcissists have a predictable abuse cycle. Learn how to overcome this spiral and their scare tactics.
February 20th: Rollercoaster Ride
Avoiding the ups, downs, twists, turns, and surprises is an art form. Learn how you can be in control of the ride instead of the narcissist.
February 27th: Child’s Play
Having a narcissist parent can be frustrating for a child. However, it is worse when the child then grows up to believe that the narcissistic behavior is acceptable. Discover ways to avoid this from happening.
Give Yourself the Tools You Need to Deal with the Deception,
Survive the Divorce and Build the Life You Deserve
$150 may seem like a lot to spend on a webinar...
… I mean, most of the webinars you see online are free. (But that’s because they want to sell you something during the webinar).
I charge $200 for a one-hour divorce planning session. This is a four-part webinar that will cover more ground than I ever could in one hour. You will get in-depth information that will help you stand up to your spouse during yourru divorce. You will also have the opportunity to ask questions anonymously during the webinar.
Most divorce attorneys will charge you $150 for a half hour of their time. And while they will help you complete the divorce, they aren’t going to help you defend yourself against your narcissistic spouse. That is beyond their scope of work.
In this webinar I will give you information that will save you hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars in wasted attorney’s fees and prepare you to work more effectively with your lawyer.
And we can’t forget what is at stake here, when you’re getting a divorce.
All those tricks that narcissists pull during divorce proceedings, the tactics in court, the manipulation, the alienation, the gaslighting, and of course the charm.
There is a reason that they do all of that. They want to get their way.
And if you don’t know what you’re up against, you risk losing alimony, child support, the house, the car, and custody of the children.
Believe me, your partner is not going to fight fair in divorce court. You need to stand up for yourself.